Useful recommendations from sex therapists

We took data from scientists. Also: sex therapists gave us practical advice. As a result: scientifically proven ways to bring female to orgasm. Go ahead!

Useful recommendations from sex therapists

1. Prepare her properly

Replace «‎inhibitors»‎ (troubles, children) with «‎extractors»‎ — your general photos, music, scented candle, says sexologist Ian Kerner, doctor of philosophy. Tell her how beautiful she is by candlelight. Nicole Proz, Ph. D., found that various negative thoughts recede into the background when watching porn.

2. More slowly

«‎Don't start twisting her nipples or rubbing her clitoris right away — touching those areas can be painful if they're not ready yet», — says sexual therapist Lori brotto, Ph. D.. Watch her body, if the hairs on the body stood «‎on end» — this is a good sign. Tell her, «‎I'll do what you like.»

3. Even slower

Is she ready for penetration? Ask her. Wet doesn't mean she is ready. (That's why releasing lubricant isn't the end for foreplay.) Her vaginal walls should be wetted and «inflated.» «Tease the vulva with your penis, make small tremors», — says Kerner. Or let her do it herself. You just watch.

4. Stimulate several areas

Some experts say that female orgasm can be produced from several places outside the clitoris: earlobes, cervix, point-G. «Do your own experiments, - says Kerner. - Kiss her neck, make cooney, caress her back, whisper in her ear. And try to stimulate the clitoris during penetration».

5. Stop worrying about her

«Your well-meaning questions («Are you okay?») may interrupt her mood», - says sexual therapist Erica Marchand, Ph. D.. «Focus instead, - says Brotto, - to the points of contact your arms crossed, pressed bellies, or on the breasts compressed by lips. Listen to her condition».

6. Now you may have fun!

Humor helps turn off the thinking part of your brain so you can focus on pleasure. «Know that there is no single right path, — says Marchand. - Even if you fall out of bed, so what? It won't affect her mood. So relax».

7. Synchronization

Steady rhythm is the key to success. «Start with a rhythm and depth that feels natural, - says Marchand. - Ask simple, short questions to keep her focused on herself: «Faster or slower? Softer or tougher? Like that?» Don't ask, «What should I do?» If she's okay with that, go ahead».